queenofdenial wrote:
I have found that sense I became more ill and unable to do the things I use to it seems my family has become more distant. At times somewwhat abusive with hurtful words. It has always been very hared for me to ask for help, but now it is even harder so I will go without even though I know I can not do it Ive become afraid to ask. I do not have a large support system so I really do not know what to do. Does anyone have any suggestions or understand my situation?
Thanks Anna
i to felt that my family were becoming somewhat detached from me, especially my children, after my accident, i had overian cancer in 2004, after struggling threw treatment, got the all clear in 2006, then bam!! got run off the road by drink driver. this left me with severe injuries to my back, which causes chronic pain. i had ops to at least give me my mobility back, but the pain will always be with me as more surgery will result in my being confined to a wheelchair..my hand also was damaged and after a finger amputation and a gazilllion ops to reconstruct it, i began to look at things differently, i relized, i wasn't a nice person to be around, at that time, i was infact expecting my family and friends in some cases, to know what i was thinking, without me explaining to them.i was so frustrated at my lack of independence, i expected them to no how i felt and how could they , ??? they hadn't the limations i had, or the pain. what worked for me, was consulting my doctor, who put me in touch with a support group, that took the burden off my family, giving me advice on everything from pain, to just popping in to say hi..to doing the weekly shop for me, now the kids have there mom back and not this crazy lady in a chair....regards jay